Anxiety and Anger

Anger and anxiety - the main factors that affect our health.

Five principals to follow in daily life-

1. I will not be angry in today's day

    How does anger affect our health?

     Anger is the end of conscience and the beginning of evil. Anger makes a person void like alcohol and powerless like paralysis. Anger is a permanent emotion of raudra rasa, disturbing mental peace. In the state of anger, the brain ceases to control the body's emergency actions. And a strange kind of excitement pervades the body. It is this excitement that compels a human being to do wrong things by inferiority.

 Although jealousy, hatred, malice etc. are all bad for human health, but from the health point of view, anger is the biggest enemy of man. Just as the strong velocity of the storm shakes the gardens and destroys their beauty, in the same way, the strongest impulse of anger creates a storm in a man's body-mind and causes them to do something wrong. In the state of anger, a strong velocity is contained within the human being, but with the passage of time, at the end of the anger, the man, like a drunkard, finds himself extremely weak and weak. It repents for a long time over its inappropriate work done in a state of charge. This statement is true that anger starts with stupidity and ends with remorse.

   However, if we consider the side effects of anger on the body, first it becomes clear that anger is basically a mental disease, which gradually leaves its side effects on the body. In the state of anger, many types of poisons are generated in the body, which cause fatal damage to the internal organs of the body.

   According to medical scientists, the external and internal actions of the body are badly affected due to anger, which causes the ratio of essential chemicals produced in the body to deteriorate. Anger causes the muscles of the body to become completely tense due to stimulation. Mainness: The muscles of the arms and legs swell and start to crack. Likewise, the face also gets stretched, which affects other parts of the body as well. It starts to turn red.

   

In the state of anger, the action that is most affected is respiration. Actually due to the impulse of anger, the body lacks energy. To accomplish this, the breathing process has to work more quickly. The lungs are unnecessarily burdened with extra work and they have to do more work. In this way, the speed and rate of respiration increases suddenly. During this time the body receives a lot of oxygen, which is the main source of energy. If the lack of energy in the body is not met by other places at such a time, the chances of diseases like blood pressure, dizziness, etc. increase.

  Anger is also responsible to a large extent for Delhi's disease. In the state of anger, the heart rate increases more than usual, due to which the speed of blood circulation in the body also becomes abnormally fast. Heart, arteries and blood vessels have to do more work.

  In the state of anger, the highest demand for blood comes from the brain. The liver also helps the blood supply. In such a situation, the ratio of oxygen in the blood increases and more energy is produced. This excess weight on the heart causes diseases like blood pressure. Sometimes a hit-attack or hurt fails in such a situation.

 

It has often been seen that people of temper nature do not have good digestion. The basic reason for this is that in the state of anger, the functioning of the stomach and intestines almost ceases. Anger not only gives birth to many diseases and internal diseases in the body, it also destroys human beauty. Wherever blue veins emerge in the body, there are untimely wrinkles on the face, black marks under the eyes.

 By staying in anger for 15 minutes, that much energy is lost from the human body. In which he can easily work hard for 9 hours in normal state. At the time of anger, there is an increase in the range of vision of the eyes, which is fatal to the eye-light. Food eaten in anger is never digested. This causes stomach pain indigestion and other diseases.

 

Other diseases due to anger-

👉Migraine

👉Ulcer and acidity

👉Increase of cholesterol

👉Diabetes and inflammation in joints

👉Muscle strains, spondylitis

👉Weakness of the immune system of the body

 Cause of anger-

👉Some situations provoke a tendency to become angry - such as

👉When people around you do not behave as you expected.

👉When a person comes in the way of your wish fulfillment or attainment of your cause.

👉When someone disagrees with you and opposes you.

👉When someone misbehaves with you, insults you, says your bad in front of you or behind your back.

👉When someone does not understand your need, convenience and problems.

👉When people take care of your promises and accountability.

👉When someone cheats on you and cheats you about the quality, reliability of the goods.

👉When your subordinates do not meet the criteria set by you and as a result your decisions are affected.

👉When someone puts obstacles in your actions.

Short-term ways to control anger -

1. As soon as anger comes, the conversation should be stopped immediately.

2. Do not carry forward the conversation.

3. If it is difficult to remain silent, then that place should be left immediately.

4. Drink a glass of cold water or close your eyes and sit somewhere.

5. Recall counting from 100 to 1 or let the anger cool down by reciting one of your mantras. Chanting of "Om" is best.

6. Go fast in the open air or concentrate in a game.

7. Think about the consequences caused by anger.

8. Think that peace and stability of mind is very important and do not let this precious treasure be destroyed by small causes.

Long-term ways to control anger

👉Do regular yoga

👉Hold silence and restraining speech

👉Meditate

👉Modesty in everyday work

👉Conquer anger by destroying ego.

👉Increase such habits that promote our tolerance so that we are not agitated in situations like abusive, injustice or insult etc.

👉Use organic food, such as fruits, milk, vegetables, etc.

👉Make a habit of reading good literature

👉Associate with good people , participate in 'Satsang'

👉Try to be as close as possible to the nature

👉Simple life, adopt a lifestyle of high thought (Simple living High thinking)

👉Pardon others

👉Take care of your health so that you can always be fit

👉Try continuous introspection. After getting angry, ask yourself 'Why did I get angry?' 'Was my anger really necessary?', 'What did I get by being angry?'

 2. I will not worry only today

 

Not to worry, it does not mean that you will not consider to solve your problems or difficulties, you will not make any plan to solve them. Worry about anything, you are having various kinds of apprehensions, then calm down and write down all your problems and those fears which are not allowing you to take rest day and night. Write again, what is the maximum harm that can happen? Get ready to accept that result from your mind.

  Worrying leads to a reverse loss rather than a gain. Anxiety causes many physical and mental diseases to occur. No problem has ever been solved by worrying and neither will ever happen in future. Hence Chinta (worry) is said to be similar to Chitaa (death bed). The fire of pyre burns only the dead body, while worry also burns your living body and mind.

 

Collect all the facts related to the problem without bias. Consider all its aspects and after taking advice from friends and concerned persons and experts, make a logical gradual plan of its light and get involved in solving it. Whenever you start worrying, then you get engaged in some creative work. Engage yourself more and more in useful tasks so that the useless thoughts do not disturb the mind.

 You pray to God for the strength that you can overcome problems and pray for the power to tolerate situations or situations that cannot be changed. This will keep both your body and mind healthy.

3. Only today I will do my work honestly

 

Individuals who do their work honestly are free from fear and worries. They get prestige and respect in the society and they get respect in the society. The closer you are to the truth, the closer you are to God. People who earn dishonestly may get momentary happiness but they have to regret it later. You came empty-handed and will go empty-handed, then for whom is dishonestly earning money? If you are collecting money for your child, then always keep two things in mind.

"पूत- सपूत तो क्यों धन संचय"

"पूत- कपूत तो क्यों धन संचय'

Meaning

 'If son is good, why accumulate wealth'

 'If son is bad, then why accumulate wealth'

  Today, man is living for material pleasures, not for spiritual pleasure and is engaged in earning money by resorting to dishonesty, lies, incest and corruption. Family people, for whom you have been earning dishonestly throughout your life, do not become your support when you are old, become your enemies for wealth and thirst for each other's blood for wealth. Then why cheat? Live a happy and joyful life by earnestly earning a living and become the blessings of God.

4. I will only thank God for today

 

At the beginning of every day, give thanks to God and the Gods you believe in. Have a feeling of gratitude for what God has given you so much through nature. A feeling of gratitude filled with joy and happiness will fill a new enthusiasm and confidence in you, which will pave the way for joy and success in the path of your life. If there is failure or misery in life, keep this feeling in mind that God has sent them for you.

5. In today's day, I will show love and respect to all living beings

 

In this theory, there is a sense of love and respect for whole creatures or stripes, and a sense of non-violence. Mahavir, Gautam Budh and Mahatma Gandhi have taught philosophy of non-violence. All animals, birds, insects, trees and plants also feel pain and pain like ours. Therefore, compassion and kindness should be shown to all. All of us are being influenced by the energy of the Supreme Father God. Pledge to protect animals and birds.

Anxiety and Anger management-दैनिक जीवन में पालन करने के लिए पाँच सिद्धांत

गुस्सा और चिंता-  मुख्य कारक जो हमारे स्वास्थ्य को प्रभावित करते हैं 

1.   केवल आज के दिन में क्रोध नहीं करूंगा-

    क्रोध हमारे स्वास्थ्य को कैसे प्रभावित करता है?

 गुस्सा विवेक का अंत और अनर्थ की शुरुआत है। क्रोध मनुष्य को मदिरा की भाति विचार शून्य तथा पक्षाघात की भांति शक्तिहीन कर देता है| रौद्र रस का स्थाई भाव क्रोध मानसिक शांति को भंग करने वाला मनोविकार है। क्रोध की अवस्था में मस्तिष्क का, शरीर की आपातकालीन क्रियाओं पर से नियंत्रण समाप्त हो जाता है। तथा शरीर में एक अजीब किस्म की उत्तेजना व्याप्त हो जाती है। यह उत्तेजना ही मनुष्य को विवेक हीन कर गलत कार्य करने को विवश करती है।

 वैसे तो ईर्ष्या, घृणा, द्धेष आदि सभी बुरे भाव मनुष्य की सेहत के लिए घातक है, किंतु स्वास्थ्य के नजरिए से देखा जाए, तो गुस्सा ही आदमी का सबसे बड़ा दुश्मन है। जिस तरह तूफान का प्रबल वेग बाग-बगीचे को झकझोर कर उनका सौंदर्य नष्ट कर देता है, उसी तरह क्रोध का तीव्रतम आवेग आदमी के तन-मन में तूफ़ान पैदा कर उनसे कोई अनर्थ करवा डालता है। क्रोध की अवस्था में मनुष्य के भीतर एक प्रचंड वेग समाहित हो जाता है, लेकिन समय के साथ क्रोध की समाप्ति पर आदमी शराबी की भांति स्वयं को अत्यंत कमजोर और निढाल पाता है। यह आवेश की अवस्था में किए गए अपने अनुचित कार्य पर लंबे समय तक पश्चाताप करता रहता है। यह कथन सत्य है कि गुस्सा बेवकूफी से शुरू होकर पश्चाताप पर खत्म होता है।

  बरहाल हम गुस्से से शरीर पर पड़ने वाले दुष्प्रभावो पर विचार करें, तो सर्वप्रथम यह स्पष्ट हो जाता है कि क्रोध मूलतः एक मानसिक रोग है, जो धीरे-धीरे अपने दुष्प्रभाव शरीर पर छोड़ता है। क्रोध की अवस्था में शरीर में कई प्रकार के विषो  की उत्पत्ति हो जाती है, जो शरीर के आंतरिक अंगों को घातक नुकसान पहुंचाते हैं।

  चिकित्सा वैज्ञानिकों के अनुसार क्रोध करने पर शरीर की बाहरी व भीतरी क्रियाए बुरी तरह प्रभावित होती है, जिससे शरीर में पैदा होने वाले आवश्यक रसायनों का अनुपात गड़बड़ा जाता है। गुस्से से शरीर की मांस-पेशियां उत्तेजना के कारण एकदम तनाव में आ जाती हैं। मुख्यता: हाथ-पैर की मांसपेशियों अकड़ जाती हैं और फड़कने लगती हैं। इसी तरह चेहरे में भी खिंचाव आने लगता है, जो शरीर के अन्य अंगों को भी प्रभावित करता है। लाल होकर तमतमाने लगता है।

 
क्रोध की अवस्था में जो क्रिया सर्वाधिक प्रभावित होती है, वह है श्वसन क्रिया। दरअसल क्रोध के आवेग के कारण शरीर में ऊर्जा का अभाव होने लगता है। इसे पूरा करने के वास्ते स्वसन क्रिया को अधिक तेजी से काम करना पड़ता है। फेफड़ों पर कार्य का अनावश्यक रूप से अतिरिक्त बोझ पड़ता है और उन्हें अधिक कार्य करना होता है। इस प्रकार श्वसन क्रिया की गति और दर एकाएक बढ़ जाती है। इस दौरान शरीर अधिक मात्रा में ऑक्सीजन ग्रहण करता है, जो ऊर्जा का मुख्य स्रोत है। यदि ऐसे समय शरीर में उर्जा के अभाव की पूर्ति अन्य स्थानों द्वारा ना हो पाए तो, रक्तचाप, चक्कर आना आदि रोगों की संभावना बढ़ जाती है।

  गुस्सा दिल् की बीमारी के लिए भी काफी सीमा तक उत्तरदाई होता है। क्रोध की अवस्था में दिल की धड़कन सामान्य से कहीं अधिक बढ़ जाती हैं, जिसके कारण शरीर में रक्त संचार की गति भी असामान्य रूप से तीव्र हो उठती है। हृदय, धमनियों व् रक्त वाहिनीयों को अधिक कार्य करना पड़ता है।

  क्रोध की स्थिति में खून की सर्वाधिक मांग मस्तिष्क की तरफ से आती है। रक्त की आपूर्ति में लीवर भी ह्रदय की मदद करता है। ऐसी स्थिति में रक्त में ऑक्सीजन का अनुपात बढ़ जाता है और अधिक ऊर्जा का निर्माण होता है। हृदय पर पड़ने वाला यह अतिरिक्त भार रक्तचाप सरीखे रोगों को उत्पन्न करता है। कभी-कभी ऐसी स्थिति में हर्ट-अटैक या हर्ट  फेल हो जाता है।

 

अक्सर देखा गया है कि क्रोधी स्वभाव के लोगों का हाजमा ठीक नहीं होता। इसका मूल कारण यह है कि गुस्से की अवस्था में पेट और आंतों की क्रियाशीलता लगभग समाप्त हो जाती है। क्रोध शरीर में अनेक व्याधियों व आंतरिक रोगो को तो जन्म देता ही है, साथ ही यह मनुष्य के सौंदर्य को भी नष्ट करता है। शरीर में जहां-तहां नीली नसें उभर आती है, चेहरे पर पर असमय झुर्रियां पड़ जाती है, आंखों के नीचे काले निशान पड़ जाते हैं।

 15 मिनट क्रोध में रहने से मनुष्य के शरीर से उतनी ऊर्जा नष्ट हो जाती है। जितने में वह आसानी से साधारण अवस्था में 9 घंटे तक कड़ी मेहनत कर सकता है। क्रोध के समय आंखों की दृष्टि सीमा में फैलाव आ जाता है, जो नेत्र-ज्योति के लिए घातक है। गुस्से मे खाया गया भोजन कभी नहीं पचता। इससे पेट दर्द बदहजमी और अन्य रोग बढ़ते जाते हैं।

 

गुस्से से होने वाली अन्य बीमारियां-

 👉माइग्रेन 

 👉अल्सर एवं एसिडिटी

 👉कोलेस्ट्रोल की वृद्धि

 👉मधुमेह एवं जोड़ों में सूजन

 👉मांसपेशियों में खिंचाव, स्पांडिलाइट्स

 👉शरीर की प्रतिरक्षा प्रणाली का कमजोर पड़ना

 

  गुस्सा आने के कारण-

  कुछ परिस्थितियां गुस्सा आने की प्रवृत्ति को उभारती हैं- जैसे

👉जब आपके आसपास के लोग आप की अपेक्षा अनुसार व्यवहार नहीं व्यवहार नहीं करते हैं।

👉जब कोई व्यक्ति आपकी इच्छा पूर्ति अथवा आपके ध्येय की प्राप्ति में आड़े आ जाता है।

👉जब कोई व्यक्ति आपकी बातों से असहमत होकर आपका विरोध करता है।

👉जब कोई व्यक्ति आपसे अनुचित व्यवहार करता है, आपका अपमान करता है, आपके सामने या पीठ पीछे आपका बुरा- भला कहता है।

👉जब कोई व्यक्ति आप की आवश्यकता, सुविधा और समस्याओ को नहीं समझता है।

👉जब लोग आप से किए वादों एवं जवाबदारी के प्रति लापरवाही बरतते हैं।

👉जब कोई व्यक्ति आपको धोखे में रखकर आपसे पैसे ऐंठ लेता है या वस्तुओं की गुणवत्ता, विश्वसनीयता के बारे में आपको धोखा देता है।

👉जब आपके मातहत आपके द्वारा निश्चित मापदंड पर खरे नहीं उतरते हैं और फल स्वरुप आप के निर्णय प्रभावित होते हैं।

👉जब कोई व्यक्ति आपके कार्यों में अड़ंगे लगाता है।

गुस्से को नियंत्रित करने के अल्पावधि उपाय-

 1. गुस्से के आते ही तुरंत वार्तालाप रोक देना चाहिए।

 2.वाद विवाद को आगे ना बढ़ाए।

 3.यदि चुप रहना मुश्किल हो तो तुरंत वह स्थान छोड़ देना चाहिए।

 4. एक गिलास ठंडा पानी पिए या अपनी आंखें बंद कर कर कही बैठ जाएं।

 5. 100 से 1 तक गिनती याद करें या अपने किसी मंत्र का उच्चारण कर गुस्से को ठंडा होने दें। ओम का जाप सर्वोत्तम होता है।

 6.कहीं खुली हवा में जाकर तेज चले या किसी खेल में मन लगाएं।

 7.गुस्से के कारण होने वाले परिणामों को सोचें।

 8.यह सोचे कि मन की शांति और स्थिरता अत्यंत महत्वपूर्ण है तथा छोटे-छोटे कारणों द्वारा इस अमूल्य खजाने को नष्ट ना होने दें।

गुस्से को नियंत्रित करने के दीर्घावधि उपाय

👉नियमित योगासन करें

👉मौन धारण करना और वाणी पर संयम

👉ध्यान साधना करना

👉रोजमर्रा के कामकाज में विनम्रता का व्यवहार

👉अंह(Ego) को नष्ट करके क्रोध पर विजय पाना

👉ऐसी आदतों को बढ़ाया जाए जो कि हमारी सहनशीलता को बढ़ावा दें जिससे हम अपशब्द, अन्याय या अपमान आदि परिस्थ्तियो में उत्तेजित न हो।

👉सात्विक अन्न, जैसे- फल, दूध, सब्जियां आदि का उपयोग करें

👉अच्छा साहित्य पढ़ने की आदत डालें

👉 अच्छे लोगों की संगत करें, 'सत्तसंग में भाग ले

👉प्रकृति के निकट रहने का अधिक से अधिक प्रयास करें

👉सादा जीवन, उच्च विचार की जीवनशैली अपनाएं

👉दूसरों को क्षमा कर सकें इस आदत को बढ़ाएं

👉अपने स्वास्थ्य का ध्यान रखें जिससे हमेशा चुस्त-दुरुस्त रह सके

👉सतत आत्मावलोकन का प्रयास करें। गुस्सा आने के बाद अपने आप से ही पूछे कि 'मैं क्यों नाराज हुआ?' 'क्या मेरा नाराज होना वास्तव में आवश्यक था?', 'गुस्सा होने से आखिर मुझे क्या मिला?'

 2.केवल आज के दिन मैं चिंता नहीं करूंगा

  चिंता नहीं करने का अर्थ यह नहीं कि आप अपनी समस्याओं अथवा कठिनाइयों को हल करने के लिए विचार नहीं करेंगे, उनको हल करने की कोई योजना नहीं बनाएंगे। किसी भी बात की चिंन्ता आप को सता रही हो, तरह-तरह की आशंकाएं आपकी नींद हराम कर रही हो, तब शान्त होकर अपनी सारी समस्याएं लिख डालिए और उन आशंकाओ को भी, जो दिन- रात आपको चैन नहीं लेने दे रही। फिर लिखिए ज्यादा से ज्यादा क्या नुकसान हो सकता है? मन से उस परिणाम को स्वीकार करने के लिए तैयार हो जाइए।    

  चिंता करने से कोई लाभ होने के बजाय उल्टा हानि होती है। चिंता अनेक, शारीरिक और मानसिक रोगों को जन्म देने का कारण बनती है। चिंता करने से कभी कोई समस्या आज तक हल नहीं हुई है और ना भविष्य में कभी होगी। इसलिए चिंता ता चिता के समान कहा गया है। चिता की अग्नि तो मृत शरीर को ही जलाती है, जबकि चिंता आप के जीवित तन और मन को भी जलाती है।

 
समस्या से संबंधित सभी तथ्यों को पक्षपातहीन होकर एकत्रित करिए। उसके सभी पहलुओं पर विचार करें तथा मित्रों एवं संबंधित व्यक्तियों और विशेषज्ञों से सलाह लेकर उसके हल् की एक तर्कपूर्ण क्रमिक योजना बनाए तथा उसे हल करने में जुट जाइए। जब कभी भी आपको चिंता सताने लगे तो आप किसी सृजनात्मक कार्य में लग जाइए। अपने को उपयोगी कार्यों में अधिक-से-अधिक व्यस्त रखिए ताकि बेकार के विचार दिमाग को परेशान ना करें।

 ईश्वर से आप ऐसी शक्ति पाने के लिए प्रार्थना करें जिनसे आप समस्याओं पर विजय पा सके और उन परिस्थितियों या हालातों को सहन करने की शक्ति के लिए प्रार्थना करें, जिन्हें बदला नहीं जा सकता हो। इससे आपका शरीर और मन दोनों स्वस्थ रहेंगे।

3. केवल आज के दिन मैं अपना कार्य एवं ईमानदारी से करूंगा

 

  जो व्यक्ति अपने काम ईमानदारी से करते हैं वे भय और चिंताओं से मुक्त रहते हैं। वे समाज में प्रतिष्ठा और इज्जत पाते हैं और उन्हें समाज में आदर मिलता है। आप सत्य के जितने करीब होते हैं उतना ही आप ईश्वर के नजदीक होते हैं।बेईमानी से कमाई करने वाले लोगों को क्षणिक सुख भले ही मिल जाए पर बाद में उन्हें पछताना ही पड़ता है। आप खाली हाथ आए थे और खाली हाथ जाएंगे, फिर बेईमानी से धन उपार्जन किसके लिए? यदि आप संतान के लिए धन इकट्ठा कर रहे हैं तो दो बातें हमेशा ध्यान रखें।

 'पूत सपूत तो क्यों धन संचय

 पूत कपूत तो क्यों धन संचय'

  आज आदमी आध्यात्मिक सुख के लिए नहीं, भौतिक सुखों की चाह में जी रहा है और बेईमानी, झूठ, अनाचार व भ्रष्टाचार का सहारा लेकर धन कमाने में लगा है। परिवार  के लोग, जिनके लिए आप जिंदगी भर बेेईमानी से कमाई कर रहे हैं, बुढ़ापा आने पर वह आप का सहारा ना बन,धन के लिए आपके दुश्मन बन जाते हैं और धन संपत्ति के लिए एक-दूसरे के खून के प्यासे बन जाते हैं। फिर बेईमानी क्यों करें? ईमानदारी से जीविकोपार्जन कर सुखी एवं आनद पूर्ण जीवन बिताइए और ईश्वर के कृपा-पात्र बनीए।

4. केवल आज के लिए मैं ईश्वर कृपा का भार मानूंगा

 

हर दिन की शुरुआत, परमात्मा और उन देवी-देवताओं को, जिन पर आप विश्वास करते हैं, धन्यवाद दीजिए। ईश्वर ने प्रकृति के माध्यम से आपको बहुत कुछ दिया है उसके लिए कृतज्ञता का भाव रखिए। आनंद व प्रसन्नता से भरी आभार की भावना आपके अंदर एक नया उत्साह और आत्मविश्वास भर देगा जो आपके जीवन की राहों में आनंद और सफलता का मार्ग प्रशस्त करेगा। यदि जीवन में असफलता या दुख आए तो भी मन में यह भाव रखिए कि परमात्मा ने इन्हें आपके लिए भेजा है।

5. केवल आज के दिन में जीव मात्र से प्रेम व आदर का भाव रखूंगा

 इस सिद्धांत में संपूर्ण प्राणियों या जीव धारियों के प्रति प्रेम और सम्मान की भावना एवं अहिंसा भाव निहित है। महावीर, गौतम बुध एवं महात्मा गांधी ने अहिंसा का दर्शन सिखाया है। सभी पशु पक्षी, कीड़े मकोड़े, पेड़ पौधे भी हमारे सामान पीड़ा और दर्द का एहसास करते हैं। अतः सभी के प्रति करुणा और दया करना चाहिए। हम सभी में परमपिता परमात्मा की ऊर्जा का प्रभाव हो रहा है। पशु-पक्षियों की रक्षा करने का संकल्प लीजिए।

What is detachment? How to practice detachment.

The formula for detachment-

Understand what is attachment to figure out how to practice detachment.

 

To understand detachment, we first have to understand attachment. Attachment happens when we get the feeling that someone or something belongs to us or we belong to someone. It also happens when we expect something of others, situations or objects.

  Attachment is a feeling, an emotion generated by the self. Emotion is energy. Emotion is sometimes referred to as energy in motion.

  When one feels a sense of attachment toward a person, object or situation, a portion of one's energy is transferred to that person, object or situation. This transference establishes an energy link between the self and the recipient. An emotional bond is created. This gives a sense of attachment to the shelf.

 
This sense of attachment also creates fear in the self because we have lost a proportion of our energy to another. The self feels incomplete (due to loss of energy) and less confident. This leads to possessiveness. The person who is attached experiences a deep desire to control the recipients of the energies because he does not want his energy to dissipate.

  By feeling a sense of attachment, one is distributing one's vital energy to others- persons, objects and situations. Most of us call this love.

  The attachment also results when one identifies the self with an act ( doer-ship or ownership). This is called the creation of Karma. The Karmas thus created get attached to the self due to this identification.

  The more the attachment, the greater is the fear experienced by the person. All decisions about the objects of the attachment are coloured by this fear. These decisions are, therefore, not based on clarity.

  To experience clarity, one must cultivate detachment.

  What is detachment?

  Detachment means preventing the transfer of energy in the first place.

  Attachment happens when we feel something or someone belongs to us. The understanding that we own nothing, possess nothing helps. The sense of ownership has to vanish. One can think that one is a temporary custodian of things. If we analyse this, we will understand that thinking a person belongs to us is preposterous. A person is, after all, not a thing.

  With a person, we can think that we are in a temporary association. The word temporary is important because we usually want everything to be permanent in life, which is an expectation and, therefore, an attachment.

  If the association is temporary, we will value that association as long as it last and experience the best the association has to offer. And When It Breaks, there will be no regret or sadness or a sense of loss. This is true detachment.

  Try this exercise for detachment:

  1. Select an object, person or situation you want to detach from.

  2. Close your eyes and examine the feelings that you have for this object, person or situation.

  3. Keeping your eyes closed, imaging calling back all the feelings, one by one, to yourself. Imagine these energies coming back to you and filling the gaps they had left behind in your energy field when you had transferred that energy earlier to the object, person or situation.

  4. After receiving back these energies, check if anything has been left behind. Repeat step 3 till you become whole again.

  5. Open your eyes. You will feel fulfilled, relaxed and happy.

  6. Now recall your energies from the next object, person or situation you are attached to, till you feel complete and whole again.

 If you make it a habit to act without a sense of ownership (ego), you would have achieved detachment.

  Detachment is not indifference. Detachment means detaching oneself from interpreting another's intentions. Detachment means being neutral to praise and criticism- and the understanding that one does not possess anything. Detachment also means projecting unconditional love to others.

  The practice of detachment leads to great inner please which will radiate to others around you. When others feel this peace and radiation, they will ask you how you this state. It becomes a Win-Win situation for everyone.

   

Recipe for good life

 A good life- we need to be sensitive and introspective to be able to decide the right path.

 

A good life is created by conscious efforts. When we improve the conditions of our roads and make medical assistant readily available, the number of accident death get reduced. Educating people based on a good life helps in making them responsible citizens. These individuals, in turn, create conditions of abundance, peace and harmony in the world. The following seems to be necessary ingredients for a for living a good life:-

  The first ingredient is physical fitness. It depends primarily on food, exercise, good sleep and freedom from anxiety and stress. 

  Honest working is the second ingredient. It paves the way for progress in your career. Work gives us confidence and prepares us to sail through tough conditions. psychologists say,’ The greatest crime an individual can commit in this world is not to use the talents hidden in him.’

  Faith is the third constituent of a good life. There are three dimension of faith in oneself, others, and in God. Faith in our-selves gives us confidence, a sense of self-worth and enable us to do work to the best of our ability. Faith in others is required for healthy interpersonal relationships.

  Economic sufficiency is the fourth necessary aspect of a good life. Poverty is, without a doubt, a great curse. However, carving to amass wealth is debilitating as well. We should be moderate in our spending. Creative and integrity are superior to money and social status; only the wise one learns the Subtle art of discriminating between wealth and creativity.

  Justice is the fifth aspect of a good life. It is fairness in dealings- not doing to others what we don’t want others to do to us. Every situation and every person we meet in life may not be just, but we need to be realistic in our approach. The innate urge in human to love and empathise gives us hope that peace will prevail in the world. When we have love in our hearts, then it becomes easy to forgive and forget. The concept of’ us’ and ‘them’ vanishes; peace occurs naturally.

 It is all in the mind- trouble started in the mind and ends there. One needs to be sensible, sensitive and introspective to be able to decide the right path. Can we stay away from the temptations of Fast Food, money and intoxicant? Are our thoughts serene and free from malice? Are we genuine in our dealings with others? The altered state of human consciousness paves the way for an improved quality of life.

Shed your Karmic baggage- face your troubles you are supposed to learn from them so quiet running.

Life’s knots are usually always removed by daily introspection. But what usually happens is that we all run away from ourselves and thus fail to introspect on our problem. Then we turn to meditate and in it, we find a haven to conveniently disconnect from our problems.

   I once knew someone who had several family problems and instead of solving them, he tried to find solace in meditation. He felt that it was the best ways she could deal with these problems. I told him that such an approach was incorrect. Only striving for moments of bliss is not what we are here for.

   you will end up with stress, losses,  disease as consciousness will not spare you for not doing things the right way. You cannot run away from the lessons that you have come to learn here in this lifetime. Problems can be resolved only by facing them. We have not taken birth to become Gods. Quite simply, we are here to become human; we are not just human beings.

   So, my friends, face your issues and don’t run away or shun them. If your child is not performing well in school, don’t whine and complain. Instead, take leave from your work, sit with him, guide him, coax him and encourage him till you know that he is back on track.

   

Similarly, if you know that you don’t get along with your spouse, don’t ignore your relationship. Take charge to solve the issue. If you find that you are not getting a raise at your work-place, find the reason for this. Then, either you can change your job or change yourself for the better.

   Essentially, you always have two choices in every situation- either accept it whole-heartedly with poise or take responsibility to change it without fear.

 Let us not do the opposite. Most people, accept their lot with a grudge and are fearful to change it. Know that every single problem you face in your life can be solved. Just as in the second standard, you are given the exam appropriate for that class, so in the final grade of school, you are given a question paper that is just right for that grade.

  So, also, life gives you a problem that you can solve. The higher you rise, the bigger are your problems, but then you are also equipped to handle them as you have progressed in life and have enough wisdom to know the right answer.

Lesson we can learn from Sri Krishna's life.

Krishna & knowledge of Gita

  

   

   In Dwapara Yuga, Lord Vishnu incarnated as Shri Krishna on the Ashtami date of Krishna Paksha of Bhadrapada month. Kansa had terror at that time. Shri Krishna killed Kansa. After this, he guided the Pandavas in the war between the Pandavas and the Kauravas. We should learn to keep doing karma from the life of Shri Krishna.

Before the Mahabharata

war, Arjuna had kept weapons. Because, Arjuna did not want to fight a war against Bhishma Pitamah, Dronacharya, Kripacharya. Then Sri Krishna preached the Gita to Arjuna and explained the importance of karma.

Sri Krishna says in the Gita that-

कर्मण्येवाधिकारस्ते मा फलेषु कदाचन।

मा कर्मफलहेतुर्भूर्मा ते सङ्गोऽस्त्वकर्मणि।।

  

You have the right to act only, but not in its fruits. Because the fruit is in the hands of God. Therefore it is not right to run away from karma nor expect the fruits of karma. These words of Lord Krishna in the Mahabharata period are as important today as they were in those times.

       According to this verse, we should not run away from karma in any situation. Nowadays, most

people think about the fruits they get before doing karma. When there is no fruit as expected, there is a disappointment. That is why do work, but do not desire fruit. This is the learning of Shri Krishna.

How will the fruit of karma be received, it should be left to God. People who work according to religion, remember God, they surely get success.

Learning of Shri Krishna: We should not run away from karma nor desire the fruits of karma, the fruit is in the hands of God.

    

Shri Krishna had preached the Gita to Arjuna, by bringing the things mentioned in the Gita to life, many of our problems can be overcome.

     Lord Krishna's preaching to Arjuna in the battlefield of Kurukshetra was said to be the knowledge of the Gita. These policies were sung by God, hence it is called Bhagavad Gita. In this, Lord Krishna taught Arjuna, karma and explained what is the cycle of life and death. In the preaching of this Gita, God also showed his great form in God and announced that he is the doer of this creation.

Out of the essence of the knowledge given to Arjuna in God, there is some knowledge that is useful to every human in his personal life at some time or the other. Some of the main ones are…

•Whatever you become in personal life, you are made with your faith, never doubt your ability.

• Krishna has said to Arjuna in the preaching of Gita, fulfil your duties with dedication and labour.

• whatever happened was good. What is happening is good. And, whatever happens, will also be good.

• Perform your duties with integrity and labour.

• You came empty-handed and will go empty-handed. Therefore, be polite to everyone.

•Shri Krishna says to Arjuna that man should subdue all the senses because the person ,The senses are subdued, its intelligence is fixed.

•Shri Krishna says, do not abandon

the idea of ​​doing  Karma, do not think about fame and badness, just do your work.

•It is better to perform one's own duties imperfectly than to master the duties of other.

•If a person constantly thinks about a goal with confidence, he can become whatever he wants.

•Mind is disturbed and it is difficult to control but if practiced continuously, you can control the

mind

•Nothing happens in life or nothing is wasted. All our good and bad deeds sometimes give fruits.

•We are created by our faith, we become what we believe.

•For those who do not control the

mind, their own mind starts working like an enemy.

•sex, anger and greed are the three gates of hell that destroy the soul, that is, they are going to be taken into degradation, so these three should be discarded.

  

   

       From the flute to the Sudarshan Chakra, every special thing in Krishna's life was gifted to him, he teaches that others should adopt good things.

                 

The entire life of Lord Krishna is ideal from a management perspective. Most of the things related to Shri Krishna's personality, which were a major part of his life, were all gifted to him. All these things are mentioned in texts like Bhagavata, Padmapuran,

Brahmavaivartpuran, Garga Samhita. The relationship of these things is mentioned in different ways in different texts.

Like, flute from Nanda baba, Morepunkh from Radha. These things are the identity of Shri Krishna. They say that wherever a person can get something good, he should take it out in his life. One should learn the good habits of others, take knowledge and respect the things received from loved ones.

Flute-Sri Krishna had received many gifts in his life and most of the gifts were always with him. Nanda Baba gave a flute to small krishna. He always kept this gift of childhood with him.

Life lesson - The flute is hollow inside, but with its sweet voice captivates others. The lesson of the flute is that we should keep our conduct free from evils like ego, greed, anger and speak all sweet.

Vejayanti garland and peacock feather-When Shri Krishna grew up a little, while doing Raslila, Radha presented the Vejayanti Mala and Morpankha (peacock feather) to the Lord. Sri Krishna wears this garland around his neck and in a peacock crown.

Life lesson - Vyjayanti Mala means the winning garland. Its message is that we should remain positive in every situation, only then success and victory prevail. Peacock learns to show respect for nature. Love should be maintained towards all living beings.

Conch(शंख ) and bow-Shri Krishna came to Ujjain, Sandipani's ashram to study. At that time, a monster named Shankhasura had taken the son of the Guru as a prisoner. Sri Krishna freed Guru Putra from the monster. He got conch from Shankhasura. Which is known as Panchajanya. Guru Sandipani presented a bow named Ajitanjaya.

Life lesson- Bow is a symbol of will power. Ajitanjaya means one who is invincible, who also has the ability to win. With will power, we can do any impossible looking work. Panchajanya means the benefactor of five people. We should help those who do the work according to religion.

Sudarshan Chakra-After receiving education, Shri Krishna met Parashurama, an incarnation of Vishnu. Parashurama presented Sudarshan Chakra to Sri Krishna. After this Sudarshan Chakra  was always with Shri Krishna. The Sudarshan Chakra was built by Shivji to slay Tripurasura. Later Shiva gave Sudarshan Chakra to Lord Vishnu.

Life lesson - Sudarshan means looking beautiful. Shri krishna had killed many demons, eliminated evils from this Sudarshan Chakra. One should keep his personality beautiful. We will stay away from evils, only then our personality can become beautiful.

Eight names of God

 

The description of the word Krishna in the Bhagavata is black, along with the word Krishna was also said to be the one who gives salvation.

Lord Krishna has many names. But, there are some names, behind which there is some story, anecdote or a different significance. Separate chanting of such names is also mentioned in the Vidhan Shastras. The glory of the names of Lord Krishna has been told in the Shrimad Bhagavata, Padmapurana, Kurma Purana, Garga Samhita and Brahmavivarta

Purana.

Different texts also have different interpretations of names. For example, in the Bhagavata, the interpretation of the word Krishna is black, but at the same time the word Krishna is also said to be the one who gives salvation. There are two Krishna in Mahabharata, one Lord Krishna, the other is Krishna Dvaipayan Vyasa, the creator of Mahabharata. Ved Vyas was black and was born on the island. So, he was named Krishna Dwaipayana, because of dividing one Veda into four parts, he was named Veda Vyasa.

Many such names of Lord Krishna got due to achievements and characteristics of their personality.

 Murari-There was a demon, son of Maharishi Kashyapa and Diti. His name was Mura. Mura conquered heaven with his own strength. Expelled the gods from heaven. Indra then prayed to Lord Krishna. Lord Krishna and his consort Satyabhama killed Mura in battle.Mura being the enemy (Ari) of God,one of the names of God became Murari.

 Madhusudan-By killing a demon named Madhu, the god got a name Madhusudan. Gods and humans were also very upset due to this demon. The Bhagavata mentions two to three demons named Madhu, who have occurred in different periods. One of these was slaughtered by Krishna.

 Keshav-This name is due to the beautiful hair of God. The description of the form of God is found in the Bhagavata and Garga Samhita. Gopis, Sakhiis and Brijwasis address Lord Krishna in many places as Keshava.

Govardhandhari & Girdhari-Stopping the worship of Indra caused him to worship Govardhan Parvat and then to lift the Govardhan Parvat with the smallest finger of his straight hand to save the people when heavy rain fell on  Brij Mandal. God loves both names. In Vrindavan, the name Girdhari, Girirajdhari is used extensively for God.

Madhav-There are two stories behind this name. On one hand, Krishna is named Madhava because of the spring god or the supreme superior of the spring in the seasons, because one of the names of spring is also Madhu. The second story is related to Tretayuga's demon Madhu, who was the king of Mathura. The elder son of this Madhu was Yadavaraj, in whose clan Lord Krishna was later born. He is also called Madhava because he was born in the dynasty of Madhu.

Muralidhar or Vanshidhar- Nand baba gave this name to Krishna because of wearing a flute. Nand baba gifted little Krishna a flute. Which has always been his identity. The flute is connected to Krishna's personality in such a way that the image of Krishna cannot be imagined without him.

Achut ( incredible)-Krishna is unwavering and unwavering in his personality. His image is that of a deity who offers unflinching devotion. He is the only deity who is worshiped together in many forms. People worship Krishna in many ways, including sons, friends, brothers, Gods, husbands, men, warriors, advisors and gurus. He is unwavering in his every form. That is why he has been called Achut.

how to change unhealthy habits?

The secret to personal change is to stop fighting yourself.

Most people want to change something about themselves. We have an optimistic tradition about ‘getting somewhere’ and’ reaching higher’, which incorporates getting somewhere with the self. Change and optimism go together. It seems , in an economic downturn situation, that optimism is lagging but there’s still a strong motivation to succeed, which means overcoming of obstacles. Many, if not most of the obstacles that people face in there rise rise to success, are personal-Which is why almost everyone wants to change the habit, a personality trait, a chronic state of anxiety, and so on.
The problem with personal change is that if you attack your old habits directly, the task is quite difficult. The mind that desire change confronts the mind that is bound by old conditioning. The result is inner conflict, with one side pushing and the other side is resisting. Countless people feel trapped inside this war, whether their goal is to stop overeating , managing their anger, become more assertive, or stop being fearful-The desire to change is not enough, and keeping up the motivation of change soon wear out.
Explore your mind.

The secret to personal changes to stop fighting against yourself. In the inner war was winnable, you do have won it long ago. I am not advising you to give up. Giving up takes you out of the combat zone , but that’s not enough to make positive change. Your brain remains trained to follow the pathways set down by habit and conditioning. This is where the secret of personal change comes in. Change occurs by giving the brain new pathways. Without this new pathways your default reaction will remain in place. Brain wiring is not the same as house wiring. Even if you are wired to overeat or to lose your temper quickly, this reaction can be overridden.
The Process has a few steps that need to be repeated anytime you find yourself having a similar, undesirable reaction.

👉1. Notice what you are about to do.
👉2. Pause, close your eyes and wait until the surge of your reaction quietens down.
👉3. Ask yourself if you really need to react this way.
       
What you are doing with these steps is bringing in the higher brain, which is the only part that can decide to change and then carry out the change. The part that keeps you from changing is, emotional and impulsive-In other words, the lower brain. The lower brain has quicker access than the upper brain which is why you jump once you hear a car backfire and only seconds later make the choice that you are not in danger. Survival impulses like hunger, aggression, and fight- or- flight are not stronger than reason; they are just faster and thoughtless.

By pausing and expecting the surge to pass, you give yourself time to try to to the items that the upper brain is expert at: considering, reflecting, weighing options, etc. But here comes the tricky part. If you have given into impulse and habit many times, ignoring the choices available to your higher brain, grooves of habit become the path of least resistance.
In a word, the more often the lower brain is favored, the weaker your decision-making becomes. That’s why over-eaters feel helpless to change their eating habit. They are not hungrier than other people; they have weekend their other choices. So your campaign , whatever quite change you're aiming for, is to require back your power to settle on . You must do this over and over. Only repetition can re-balance your brain, allowing stronger pathways to be built and older grooves to wear out. Besides the three steps given above, the subsequent also are very useful:

👉Write down how you feel.

👉Make a note whenever you create a far better choice.

👉Appreciate your good choices and celebrate the very fact that you simply made them.

These additional steps reinforce higher- brain awareness. They reconnect you to your emotional brain and teach it to see that it does not feel good just too overeat , lose your temper or act aggressive. It feels just as good to make a better choice.

Celebration , which many people live out, enforces the positive emotional side of making better choices. When you put all this steps together, they make change possible, not by fighting against yourself, but by adding the fulfillment of knowing that you are the author of your own biography and may turn the plot.