how to change unhealthy habits?

The secret to personal change is to stop fighting yourself.

Most people want to change something about themselves. We have an optimistic tradition about ‘getting somewhere’ and’ reaching higher’, which incorporates getting somewhere with the self. Change and optimism go together. It seems , in an economic downturn situation, that optimism is lagging but there’s still a strong motivation to succeed, which means overcoming of obstacles. Many, if not most of the obstacles that people face in there rise rise to success, are personal-Which is why almost everyone wants to change the habit, a personality trait, a chronic state of anxiety, and so on.
The problem with personal change is that if you attack your old habits directly, the task is quite difficult. The mind that desire change confronts the mind that is bound by old conditioning. The result is inner conflict, with one side pushing and the other side is resisting. Countless people feel trapped inside this war, whether their goal is to stop overeating , managing their anger, become more assertive, or stop being fearful-The desire to change is not enough, and keeping up the motivation of change soon wear out.
Explore your mind.

The secret to personal changes to stop fighting against yourself. In the inner war was winnable, you do have won it long ago. I am not advising you to give up. Giving up takes you out of the combat zone , but that’s not enough to make positive change. Your brain remains trained to follow the pathways set down by habit and conditioning. This is where the secret of personal change comes in. Change occurs by giving the brain new pathways. Without this new pathways your default reaction will remain in place. Brain wiring is not the same as house wiring. Even if you are wired to overeat or to lose your temper quickly, this reaction can be overridden.
The Process has a few steps that need to be repeated anytime you find yourself having a similar, undesirable reaction.

👉1. Notice what you are about to do.
👉2. Pause, close your eyes and wait until the surge of your reaction quietens down.
👉3. Ask yourself if you really need to react this way.
       
What you are doing with these steps is bringing in the higher brain, which is the only part that can decide to change and then carry out the change. The part that keeps you from changing is, emotional and impulsive-In other words, the lower brain. The lower brain has quicker access than the upper brain which is why you jump once you hear a car backfire and only seconds later make the choice that you are not in danger. Survival impulses like hunger, aggression, and fight- or- flight are not stronger than reason; they are just faster and thoughtless.

By pausing and expecting the surge to pass, you give yourself time to try to to the items that the upper brain is expert at: considering, reflecting, weighing options, etc. But here comes the tricky part. If you have given into impulse and habit many times, ignoring the choices available to your higher brain, grooves of habit become the path of least resistance.
In a word, the more often the lower brain is favored, the weaker your decision-making becomes. That’s why over-eaters feel helpless to change their eating habit. They are not hungrier than other people; they have weekend their other choices. So your campaign , whatever quite change you're aiming for, is to require back your power to settle on . You must do this over and over. Only repetition can re-balance your brain, allowing stronger pathways to be built and older grooves to wear out. Besides the three steps given above, the subsequent also are very useful:

👉Write down how you feel.

👉Make a note whenever you create a far better choice.

👉Appreciate your good choices and celebrate the very fact that you simply made them.

These additional steps reinforce higher- brain awareness. They reconnect you to your emotional brain and teach it to see that it does not feel good just too overeat , lose your temper or act aggressive. It feels just as good to make a better choice.

Celebration , which many people live out, enforces the positive emotional side of making better choices. When you put all this steps together, they make change possible, not by fighting against yourself, but by adding the fulfillment of knowing that you are the author of your own biography and may turn the plot.